8. Differences between work and personal life

D: I find, sex differs with escorts… because escorts are more experienced, more skilful, and less inhibited about sex than, I don’t know how you’d refer to someone that’s not an escort, um…. Because they see so many different guys they know, how to turn guys on, how they.. how to give guys extreme sensual pleasure, and.. it does show. There’s nothing wrong with that (chuckles) But yeah that’s the main difference, plus your girlfriend, your wife whatever, kind of hang about after the sex and snuggles up to you and cuddles up to you where as with an escort there’s usually a general rule there’s a quick kiss and you get dressed and … but yeah the skill. Like I said it sex without strings…

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I: Sex at work is so different to sex in personal life. Sex at work you don’t think about yourself. You think about the timing you think about how many times you’ve got to make them cum in the timing, how you’re gonna do that, what positions they’ll probably wanna be in. Not once do you think what do I wanna do. Whereas in real life I’m a lot more selfish. I’m a lot more like “I wanna do this so I’m gonna do it!”

E: In like- in a session even if a guy’s going down on you.. it’s for him. You’re not enjoying it, you’re making the noises that you think he wants to hear, you can tailor the noises you think the guy wants to hear, depending on whether he wants a very realistic girlfriend experience, or whether he seems to be more into the porn star kind of effect. Whereas when you’re outside of work you just, well you just enjoy it really don’t you.

I: Yeah like most sessions.. if-if you’re in charge of a session it’ll run pretty much the same every session.

E: I think, until you’ve done the job, it’s hard to understand someone when they say “I can completely detach myself from what they’re doing.” Because it’s not like your mind goes away somewhere else, you don’t detach yourself in that way but.. you see it as.. an act…You never relax around them, you never let them see yourself…

I: No you don’t relax at all, no..

E: There isn’t that emotional connection with someone, and there isn’t even really.. any sexual feeling towards them it’s very..

I: Put on.

E: Pretty much every single orgasm at work is faked… every now and then you’ll meet someone (giggles)

I: Every now and then you’ll have a little surprise! But.. apart from that..

E: And it isn’t, it isn’t always because they’re not good in bed. But you just- you don’t let your mind go into that turned on state.

I:Yeah..it’s the fact that the timing, you’ve always got to have your mind on the time, and you have so many men you kind of desensitise yourself,

E: It’s just um… basically sex at work is going through the motions, and then the rest of it is making it look like you’re not going through the motions.